Breakups can be ugly and toxic and nervewracking. They can get inside your head and twist all your brain cells to a point where it would stop functioning altogether. So, in such a situation, it is extremely important for us to focus on getting through this phase without affecting your mental state. We should aim at coming out of this depressing state stronger and better than ever. And that is what we are going to do. Here are 20 healthy ways to get over a breakup!
1. Take a trip
After a breakup, the first thing that you should do is detox. Get rid of all the toxicity that you are surrounded by. And what better way to do that than retreating into nature? Take a few days off and go where you think you will feel better. Go into the wild or simply book a room at a resort and spend your time reading a book. But plan a getaway, even if it is just for the weekend. You will feel better instantly, I assure you. Also, vacation is the healthiest and the most promising way of getting over a breakup. So, hurry up and make your reservations.
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2. Formulate a diet plan
I don’t mean diet like you are Christian Bale preparing for the role of Trevor Reznik from The Machinist. And I also don’t mean that you turn into a beefy Dave Bautista. In fact, you don’t have to change at all. You have to do exactly the opposite of that. All you have to do is turn yourself into you. I mean the ‘healthy you.’
Take this time off to get in shape. Tone yourself. Engage in a light workout regime. Eat what you should be eating. Pay full attention to your physical self, something that you have ignored for such a long time.
3. Don’t rush into a rebound but…
Don’t shy away from exploring your options. This does not mean you would rush into a new relationship. Or be ready to jump anyone new you come across. But make sure you don’t shut yourself away from the outside world. Be open to possibilities. You might just meet the right one or maybe you won’t. However, you would not be missing out on anything or anyone. Go out. Meet new people. Socialise, too! Do everything that would help you take your mind off of things.
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4. Keep yourself hydrated
Weird way to get over a breakup, right? Not really. This is more of a gentle reminder than an actual way of getting over a breakup. But it does help you get through the tough phase without affecting your health.
All that crying for the one who does not even deserve your tears makes you lose a lot of water from your body. This can obviously lead to dehydration. And I don’t know about you, but when I am dehydrated, I just can’t stay out of that god awful washroom. It completely messes up with my system. So, don’t let it happen to you. Cry but don’t forget to keep yourself hydrated.
5. Stay away from too much alcohol
While we are at it, let’s just remind ourselves not to indulge in too much drinking. The reason? It is the opposite of healthy. I know alcohol can be a great way to escape for some time, but it is not the wisest of choices. Since it is possible that you may spend your time crying about what has just happened, giving your body alcohol at this time would just make things worse. Your body is already losing water. If you chug down alcohol in such a state, you will be dehydrating your body even more. And that will certainly cause you some physical disorders. So, it does not make sense because you are already emotionally traumatised and mentally vulnerable. Your physical health is the only asset that you can control and consciously protect. Therefore, make good choices!
6. Detach from all their social media handles
You would wonder what purpose deleting your ex from your social media would serve. But it helps not to see your stupid ex’s annoyingly goofy smiling face on your feed. Imagine; you are having an awesome day at work because you just won employee of the month. You open your Instagram to post about it and your feed refreshes and there it is. That face you dread. Wouldn’t that just instantly kill your cheerful mood? That is exactly why you need to unfollow, unsubscribe and unfriend your ex from all your social media.
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7. Keep yourself away from their things
This means you need to get rid of all their belongings. Remember that sweatshirt you loved so much that you felt the need to steal it from him so you can sleep in it every winter night? Time to bid adieu to that, too, babe!
The simple reason to do this is that surrounding yourself with all their stuff would only make it difficult for you to forget about them. Every time you would see their toothbrush or keychain or even their favourite book, you would melt into a depressing puddle. And we all know how difficult it is to clean up a puddle. We don’t want to let that happen. Ever!
8. Understand their perspective but don’t blame yourself
Do you know what is more toxic than surrounding yourself with your ex’s stuff? Blaming them for everything. Well, unless your ex cheated on you or did something crazier than that, it can’t be all their fault. There are two sides to a coin. I don’t mean you should spend a considerable amount of your time justifying the breakup. However, instead of completely disregarding both sides of the story and simply blaming your ex for everything is really unhealthy. Understand why they did what they did. But don’t blame yourself for not being who they wanted you to be. Understand, weigh and let it go.
9. Make your contributions
One of the best things to do to get over an ugly breakup is to give back to those who need you. In this time of sadness and disappointment, you can understand other’s pain really well. So, why not use it to do good?
Volunteer at an animal shelter if you love animals. Hundreds of animal babies are abandoned and ill-treated by humans every day. All they need is a loving touch and a little care. Give them that. Spend your time making someone else’s day. This would not be a selfless good deed. You would not only be gaining some peace of mind but also be channelling your sadness toward doing something good.
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10. Take care of your mind
We have discussed a lot about taking care of your body but what about your mind? It is the most important part of your body right now. It is what keeps you stable. So, naturally, it is important to take care of that, too. Yes, you guessed it right! I am talking about meditation. Don’t worry about having to leave your house or anything. You have YouTube. Play relaxing audio and connect to your inner self.
11. Decide whether you want to be friends or not
I am in contact with all my exes because we still have mutual respect for each other. But that does not have to be the case for everyone. You don’t have to decide immediately. Take your time. But remember that this decision will help you know where you stand after you have broken up. This is an important step in getting over a breakup. For instance, if you feel you really never wish to see your ex’s face ever again, then you don’t have to waste your time crying over them. Similarly, you should not be crying even if you feel they are not completely demonic. Simply because you should cherish and be thankful for all the good times that they have given you. In any case, your main focus should be to invest your time and feelings only in positive things.
12. Rearrange your furniture
The same old decor is bound to remind you of your time together. Why sulk in a corner in your own house? Your house should be the least depressing thing about your life right now. You should only feel positive at home. And that is why you need to rearrange your furniture. I say rearrange because redecorating is absolutely unrealistic. You are going through a breakup and not winning a lottery. Thus, unless you have secret treasure stacked in your vault, rearranging your furniture is the only free and effective way of getting over your breakup.
13. Avoid foul-mouthing about your ex amongst friends
Another unhealthy habit that would make getting over your ex and your breakup really difficult and slow for you is talking bad about them behind their back. I know what the movies teach you. And who could forget about the infamous Valentine’s Day ritual from Friends? As satisfying as it sounds, it is not practical. You can bitch about your ex as much as you want, but it won’t help you. Be classy. Rather than talking bad about your ex, take the high road. Recall the better days and let everything else go. It would not only help you grow but also make you feel good about yourself for being the bigger person.
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14. It is okay to get lost in your phone
There is nothing wrong in being neck deep in your Facebook feed, stalking people or even going on a recipe-watching spree. It is fun. It passes your time and does not let the depressing thoughts enter your mind. Use this time to learn some new craft if you want to. Browse on Pinterest to get ideas for Christmas decorations this year. Get creative with your time on the phone. The sky is the limit, my friend.
15. But don’t lose your consciousness
While you are engrossed in your phone, don’t forget to be aware. Weird sentence, right? But very necessary. Engaging in your phone for a long time does not mean that you have to tune out the entire world. That is seriously unhealthy. Even on regular days.
In conclusion, don’t depend on your phone to take your pain away. It can only help you for a little while. It is you who needs to make the changes.
16. Chocolate does help
I have said it before, and I will repeat it that Remus Lupin is absolutely right about chocolate. It really does help. But I also know that this is the time when you don’t want to gain more weight either. So, how do you eat chocolate AND ensure no weight gain?
Opt for dark chocolates during this tough time. They are delicious. Also, they contain less sweet so, you can eat as much as you like. But there is a small catch here. Only the dark chocolate that contains 70% or more cocoa is healthy. So, if you are not a fan of bittersweet chocolates, consider skipping this point already. But how would dark chocolate help you get over a breakup and not make you gain weight?
Well, dark chocolates are appetising. They cut down on your cravings. Having chocolates would ensure that you are having a healthy comfort snack. Also, it decreases body fat as it does not contain high amounts of milk solids or sugar. So, it is a win-win for everyone.
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17. Start watching a new TV show
The best way to get over a breakup is to get yourself busy doing something that would not let your mind wander off. And I believe starting to watch a new TV series is the perfect way to take your mind off of things. If you have not already done it while living in 2018, get yourself a subscription to one of the online streaming websites. Watch a show that you have been willing to watch for some time or have been hearing about. Choose any genre but romantic. We don’t want you falling into that pit of sadness anymore. Instead, a nice crime or fantasy-based TV series would keep you glued to your seat, teleport you into a different world and help you not think about your breakup or your ex.
18. Remind yourself that the world has not ended
One of the most important things to remember after you have had an ugly breakup is this.
We all know how breakups can be. They can be as bad as having a knife stabbed in your weakest nerve. And although you might feel like your life has shattered, the world has not changed. I’m sorry to burst your bubble, honey. But the world outside isn’t black and white. It is still colourful. So, if you are feeling grey after what you have been through, why not draw some colours from the world and light up your life again?
19. DON’T post sad, grieving posts on your Instagram stories
I know you have been through a lot. And if you are like me, you would even be blaming yourself for giving someone the right to break your heart. But you have to be strong. Keep all this to yourself. You can always turn to your friends for support and help but avoid expressing on social media. Truthfully, your sad posts about breakup would only be a subject for gossips for the viewers. They would rarely take the effort to look beyond your posts. Thus, if you don’t want your feelings to be made fun of behind your back or be misunderstood by anyone, stay away from those Instagram stories, sweetheart!
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20. Get a new haircut
Nothing says “I am over you” as well as a new look does. And the easiest way to get a new look is by getting a brand new haircut. Getting a haircut allows you to release endorphins (your feel-good hormones), which makes you feel better and happy about yourself. And when you feel good about yourself, you can forget about the things that upset you sooner. Therefore, cutting your hair is the fastest and healthiest way of getting over a breakup.